Who doesn’t need to carry extra pleasure of their lives? This week, we’re speaking about all of the little issues in life that carry us a lot pleasure. Plus, we’re doing our e book report on The Lifeless Romantics by Ashley Poston.
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Present Notes:
Issues we discover pleasure in:
Elsie
Audiobooks
Walks
Collections: Antiques and artwork
Motion pictures
Emma
Studying
Desserts
Walks
Little Luxuries: getting lashes refilled, portray nails, and shopping for a brand new face cream
Adjusting your expectations so you possibly can actually love one thing
Price The Lifeless Romantics by Ashley Poston between 1-5 ghost emojis
Elsie – 4.5
Emma – 4.5
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Episode 221 Transcript:
Elsie: You’re listening to the gorgeous mess podcast, your cozy consolation pay attention,. Who doesn’t need a bit bit extra pleasure of their lives? This week we’re speaking concerning the little issues in our life that carry us a lot pleasure. Plus, we’re doing a e book report on The Lifeless Romantics by Ashley Poston. Okay, so ought to we begin off with the e book report or with the issues that carry us pleasure?
Emma: Oh, let’s do issues that carry us pleasure.
Elsie: Okay. Let’s do it. I’m, like, so scared that we put all the identical issues. What number of did you set up? I put 5.
Emma: I put 5.
Elsie: Nice. Okay, we’ll trip.
Emma: Now I’m very curious to see in the event that they’re all the identical issues. Actually, I might adore it. In the event that they’re all 5 the identical. That’d be loopy in a means.
Elsie: They’re gonna be. Apart from one or two. Give me your first one. Okay.
Emma: My first one is studying. Is that in your listing too? Is that in your bingo card?
Elsie: Yeah, duh it’s. Okay. Go forward.
Emma: Shock, shock. We love studying. I believe I talked about this a bit bit within the final episode. However studying to me is simply such a cheerful place in life. I really like having a e book that I’m like, wanting ahead to selecting it again up. I’m like dashing via, you realize, folding laundry or no matter silly job I’ve in order that I can get again to my e book. I do hearken to audiobooks. I do know you’re going to speak about audiobooks, however I are typically extra of a e book reader. And I’m contemplating getting an e-reader once more. I had one prior to now. I had a Kindle and it simply wasn’t actually my factor. I like having the pages to show.
Elsie: Why are you contemplating it then?
Emma: So I’m contemplating it, in order our listeners know, I’m pregnant. I’m going to have a child this summer season. My due dates late June. And I’m already planning like what books to love, have in that period, I’m going to do loads of attractive fairy books that creator I imagine it’s Sara Mase need to say. So I’m wanting ahead to a maternity go away. And I really like infants. And I really like breastfeeding. I really like breastfeeding my son. Additionally, it’s a tough time I’m a sleeper. I prefer to sleep seven to eight hours an evening. And also you positively don’t get to sleep that a lot when you’ve got a new child. And it’s exhausting. It’s, you realize, a troublesome time the place you’re attempting to maintain your perspective up. However you’re like, man, I want I may sleep extra. So I’m like planning a e book that I can at the very least be wanting ahead to studying whereas I’m breastfeeding at evening or no matter I’m doing, you realize, getting up with the child. And generally you’re not studying however there are lengthy stretches the place they’re simply consuming and also you’re feeding them with a bottle or your boob or no matter. And also you’re simply sitting there. So having one thing to stay up for studying at 4am. Yeah, is sort of a excessive bar. So I’m actually simply wanting like, what I might think about considerably junk meals reads, and the attractive fairy books actually do it for me as a result of they’re for me, extremely addictive. And this isn’t me dissing them by the best way. That is me saying how fantastic I really like them as a result of they’re what I’m saving for my maternity go away.
Elsie: Did you end the primary collection?
Emma: No, I haven’t completed it as a result of I don’t prefer to be a reader who like speeds via all one creator. I prefer to sort of tempo them out. Particularly if I discover like a trilogy that I’m actually into. I actually like sort of spacing it out as a result of then I’m like, wanting ahead to it. However I believe I’m going to hurry via loads of them throughout the maternity leaves. In order that’s why I’m contemplating an e-reader too, since you do loads of issues one handed when you’ve got a child since you’re holding the child so much. So that you eat your meals one handed, you be taught to do loads of issues one handed, and holding huge books one handed is de facto exhausting, such as you drop them so much. So I’m like possibly I ought to simply get an e-reader although I sort of have this sense that I gained’t need to hold it after that section of life. Like I’ll most likely need to return to books as a result of I identical to having them on my shelf. I like turning the pages. I identical to it. And you realize, only for enjoyable, readings for enjoyable. So I’m like, why not do the factor I like so I nearly like need to identical to borrow somebody’s e-reader for six months.
Elsie: Give it to me whenever you’re completed as a result of I would like one for the youngsters.
Emma: Okay, possibly I’ll try this then as a result of I don’t need to purchase one and solely use it for six months. It makes me really feel so wasteful. However I additionally was like, are you able to lease an e-reader? I don’t assume so. So anyway, that is my dumb factor. However I really like studying a lot. So I’m like planning what I’m going to learn throughout this barely exhausting season.
Elsie: I believe that’s actually sensible to offer your self treats.
Emma: Yeah, and to me studying is unquestionably a deal with. And I like all types of various genres. However there are some that really feel extra addictive to me than others. I positively learn loads of romance, not simply fantasy romance. I like historic romance. I like Trendy Romance. To me that’s like a really like enjoyable learn. Like if I’m a bit bit unhappy or it’s wintertime. I’m like, give me that romance. Yeah, I like all types of issues. I really like thrillers, clearly. I additionally like nonfiction. I’m fairly eclectic in my studying. And I additionally like that you just and I are typically barely totally different on our fiction reads.
Elsie: You at all times say that.
Emma: You want a bit extra normal fiction than I do. I’m a bit extra style than you’re as a result of you’re not in opposition to fantasy nevertheless it’s not like a giant factor for you essentially and I’m like dragons signal me up.
Elsie: I’m obsessive about fantasy however I’m like exhausting to please. I’m like simply upset by it which isn’t good.
Emma: And you want extra moody issues, a bit bit extra creative.
Elsie: That’s true I prefer to cry.
Emma: You prefer to cry. I don’t prefer to cry very a lot. I prefer to be a bit bit spooked. Such as you scare me, I like that. However I don’t actually prefer to cry an excessive amount of. I additionally do cry although, throughout romance so much, which may be very humorous, however I do. So I believe I’m a straightforward cry. And so I’m like, I don’t need this unhappy. I don’t prefer to cry as a result of I’m unhappy. I need to cry as a result of like they lastly obtained collectively, or you realize, one thing completely happy. I like a cheerful cry, I assume. Anyway, studying is unquestionably a type of little joys in life. And I additionally discover loads of pleasure being in locations which have numerous books. So bookstores, libraries, and I really like to purchase books and take a look at books, however I additionally identical to the sensation of being round loads of books. I believe it’s a really peaceable factor. And I believe a part of it’s rising up whenever you go to public colleges, actually any establishment kind factor like that, it could possibly be a boarding faculty, or no matter, I went to public colleges. There’s loads of instances the place you’re like, in case you’re the kind of one who’s a bit bit introverted, and likes to be alone, and likes like low audio environments, there’s generally you don’t get a selection, proper? Such as you’re simply within the cafeteria, and it’s loud, or like, sure lecturers would really like play music throughout take a look at as a result of it does assist different college students. However for me, it at all times sort of bothered me. So for me, being within the library was like, a very nice place to be. Even when I wasn’t there to take a look at a e book. I simply needed to be in there.
Elsie: Emma has at all times been this manner. Once we had our retailer, she like hated it that I performed music and it’s like, you sort of should.
Emma: I don’t hate music however I identical to loads of peace and quiet. I’m a really like searching for peace consistently individual.
Elsie: It is best to get a type of little grandma water fountains.
Emma: I used to have one, like in center faculty in my room, the little waterphone. Yeah. Anyway, yeah. So studying. studying is unquestionably a bit pleasure for me.
Elsie: I adore it. Okay, I’ll do audiobooks since we’re on the topic already. So I really like studying paper books. However audio books are like very sensible for me on this time of life. I’ll inform you all of the instances I learn them as a result of folks at all times ask me like, how do you learn so many books? And I learn them after I’m driving. Once I’m ready for child, you realize, nicely, that may decide ready, ready, ready. Anytime I’m cleansing. And anytime I’m doing any sort of work aside from writing. I can’t clearly, do it after I’m writing. Yeah, however another like after I’m doing images or another work? I can deal with the audiobook. So yeah, that’s just about all day each day. And even generally at evening earlier than mattress. I listened to them. Prefer it’s identical to, I adore it. So yeah, I believe that the cool factor about audiobooks is you possibly can learn actually, actually quick. Even you probably have a busy life. That’s like lively, you realize, taking walks anyway, all of it. Oh, yeah, portray, all of the issues just about all the things aside from writing or I’m enjoying with my youngsters. My youngsters like hate my books. They usually don’t prefer it after I even have my headphones in. And in order that’s like a bit little bit of an issue. So I both have to cover it from them nevertheless it’s okay you shouldn’t hearken to them 24 hours a day. However yeah, I really like the artwork of audiobooks. Looks like loads of the individuals who learn audiobooks are actors. It’s like usually they’re like a display screen actor, a Broadway actor. It’s identical to every kind of cool folks. Anyway, I do prefer to learn a wide selection of books, like what Emma was saying, possibly like a bit bit extra literary fiction, however just about all the identical stuff. I don’t prefer to learn loads of romance books in a row. Suppose I prefer to learn one each from time to time, like one a month and identical with nonfiction. I don’t prefer to learn nonfiction books in a row as a result of you realize, there it will possibly all mix collectively. It already sort of does. Prefer it’s exhausting to recall whenever you consider like a self assist idea, which e book it got here from whenever you learn, you realize, like a bunch of them.
Emma: Yeah, generally like a biography or an autobiography too, which is a distinct type of nonfiction. However I really feel like I get into kicks the place I’m, like, sort of into studying like Audrey Hepburn’s biography, or you realize, no matter. I identical to get into these little boats for awhile.
Elsie: Yeah, no, I like that, movie star memoirs. So movie star memoirs, there’s solely often like a couple of, like, superb ones annually, however there’s at all times at the very least one or two superb ones each single yr. In order that’s enjoyable. However yeah, anyway, love audiobooks. It’s positively nonetheless counts as studying. It is sort of a technique to if you wish to identical to get into studying with a low barrier of entry. Such as you don’t have to take a seat. For me if I needed to sit and browse a e book each time I wouldn’t be capable to learn very a lot as a result of I’m not touring very a lot in my life proper now. And identical to sitting down studying a e book, is it at all times interesting to me. However yeah, like listening to at least one it’s prefer it’s tremendous interesting.
Emma: Sitting down and studying is an entire totally different, you want using your fingers greater than seemingly until you’ve got some sort of system. So it’s simply totally different. Whereas you could be doing issues when you’re listening to an audio e book. So that you could be folding laundry, doing dishes, no matter.
Elsie: And I felt like my youngsters are already due to the Yoto gamers. They’re already like, they’ve an appreciation for just like the expertise within the manufacturing of an audiobook as a result of I began to learn Harry Potter to them. They usually, Emma is aware of the story, they have been like, Mama, you’re not doing sufficient voices. Like Mama, you’re studying so boring. And I assumed I used to be doing a superb job. I used to be attempting.
Emma: She obtained booed off the stage.
Elsie: After which we began studying the Jim Dale manufacturing that like, you realize, and it’s an entire factor. They usually have been like, immediately, sure, instantly sure. So I simply sit there with the e book in my heads with my telephone out. And we hearken to it collectively. And it’s kind of like studying, nevertheless it’s kind of, I assume it’s simpler, they usually’re having fun with it extra. It’s extra entertaining for them. However yeah, it’s positively like a expertise that folks have.
Emma: Youngsters could be brutally trustworthy. No, I’m not eager about you doing it. Okay. Wow. That’s humorous.
Elsie: Okay, what’s your subsequent?
Emma: My subsequent one is desserts.
Elsie: Oh okay. Say all the things.
Emma: Okay, so let me begin with this. , we love a disclaimer, I don’t have something to say about well being, weight, none of that. I’m not eager about speaking about that proper now. I believe that meals can get so wrapped up in that, and I get that and it’s an essential dialog. That’s not what I’m speaking about proper now.
Elsie: Yeah. Or like ever on this podcast.
Emma: Yeah, I’ve. I’ve nothing good to say don’t hearken to me on any of that. I don’t know I’m studying too, anyway. So let me begin by saying one factor that our nice grandma Lula, who lived to be like 102 or 103, she was mainly within the blue zone. She figured it out. My mother mentioned that piece of recommendation. Nice Grandma Lula had was she was like, I’m at all times wanting ahead to my subsequent meal. And that was like considered one of her secrets and techniques to love a protracted, completely happy life was to at all times be wanting ahead to your subsequent meal. I believe that recommendation is like, so easy and so good. And as somebody who loves consuming, I do know, some folks don’t care about consuming, that’s completely cool. However I really like consuming. I additionally love cooking. And I simply have sure meals I really like that I get enthusiastic about that I take into consideration and for me, like, at any time when I obtained my huge tattoos your complete time, I used to be excited about what I used to be going to eat later. As a result of it’s like my technique to like, get via one thing troublesome. I can assure this summer season after I ship our son, I will probably be excited about what I can eat later or the following day, as a result of it’s only a technique to get via what could be sort of a troublesome second for me. So I utterly perceive my nice grandmother Lula being like, a secret to a cheerful life is is considering your subsequent meal and looking out ahead to your subsequent meal. So for me, I’m usually excited about like, desserts or little treats that I need to have later. And naturally, I don’t do that each single day. I don’t have time to do it each single day. However I’ve loads of like little issues which are like my little treats and issues round city or the opposite day I obtained like actually fixated on getting a bagel from Panera, however then they have been all out of the blueberry and that was a giant downside for me. As a result of I used to be simply actually in search of and loads of instances they’re actually easy factor solely.
Elsie: I solely get the cinnamon one.
Emma: Too crunchy for me. Yeah, generally I’m within the temper for the cheese one, however not some this time I actually was wanting the blueberry with some cream cheese frosting or not frosting simply cream cheese. I imply, it’s mainly frosting. However yeah, and yeah, I’m a giant fan of I’ve talked about this earlier than, however I really like Andy’s Frozen Custard which is sort of a regional factor nevertheless it’s positively a Springfield factor.
Elsie: My youngsters name it lovely, beautiful spinning ice cream cone.
Emma: Oscar at all times notices the ice cream cone too and yeah, desserts and simply little treats is a factor for me that I’ll plan and I like wanting ahead to it. Like if I do know that my husband and I are going to go on a date to love a sure restaurant, particularly if we’re touring. I’m one of many those that I’ll generally search for the menu forward of time as a result of it’s not that I’m essentially fearful or one thing I identical to wanting ahead. I like including that to the expertise of consuming of like I’m wanting ahead to having my favourite pasta on Friday for my birthday or no matter and I’m excited about it for like two weeks and it’s not like I’m not consuming different meals within the meantime that I’m having fun with I’m however I identical to the anticipation.
Elsie: That’s fantastic. I really like that.
Emma: So so far as little joys that does it for me. And I additionally love generally having time to prepare dinner one thing enjoyable. Like for my birthday, one of many nights, Oscar stayed the evening together with her mother, he had a grandma evening. And the following morning, I didn’t have Oscar time, as a result of he was over at grandma’s and I baked my very own birthday cake. Mother was like, you don’t should bake your individual birthday cake. Inform me what cake you need. I’ll bake it, you realize, our mother’s actually candy like that. And he or she’s a fantastic baker. However I used to be like, Mother, truly, I’d prefer to bake it as a result of Oscar gained’t be house. He likes to assist in the kitchen. And that’s actually candy. However that’s an entire totally different factor than after I get to take a seat and prepare dinner on my own and simply sort of listened to my very own podcast that I need to hearken to, or no matter, and make one thing that I’m enthusiastic about. Check out a brand new recipe that I haven’t tried earlier than or no matter. And I additionally appreciated the method of constructing meals generally excited about consuming it, which this was a chocolate cake, and I used to be wanting ahead to consuming it.
Elsie: Oh, that was cute. I really like that. It’s an ideal little pleasure in life.
Emma: I believe so.
Elsie: My subsequent one is walks. Did you set walks?
Emma: Sure.
Elsie: Yeah, I wager you probably did. Okay, so the factor I really like about walks is clearly prefer it’s good getting recent air. It’s good getting train. You’ll be able to hearken to your audiobook. Yeah, get a bit daylight. However the factor I actually like is everybody’s homes. I identical to to love look intimately. Particularly whenever you’re planning renovations, like final summer season, I keep in mind I used to be like strolling your complete neighborhood what shade everybody’s porch was, as a result of it’s like not a factor you discover till you want have to do your individual porch. And there’s so many little issues like that like all of the picket fences after we have been getting a picket fence and like, you realize, so, yeah, walks is like one of many biggest issues in my life and doubtless like, the most important improve. Once we moved from our McMansion in Tennessee to right here, there was sort of lots of people that have been like, oh, your own home is like not as clean mansion is sweet. Which is prefer it’s not as mansiony, however just like the distinction between a stroll the place all you get to have a look at is different McMansions and a stroll the place you get to have a look at like 100 historic properties, to me is prefer it’s not a con. It’s not even a contest like you possibly can’t exchange that.
Emma: I walked in your previous neighborhood and I’ve walked in your present neighborhood and by far your present neighborhood is a significantly better stroll.
Elsie: Yeah, it’s magical. And I appreciated my McMansion too. So, no disgrace in the direction of the McMansion life. It had its good issues for certain. However yeah, just like the walks. So yeah, I really like like, you realize, simply I don’t know the bizarre stuff just like the mailboxes, seeing what flowers folks plant of their yard, identical to all of the little issues. After which sure, our neighborhood is an excessive Halloween neighborhood, which iskinda like 90% of my id.
Emma: Shout out to everybody who does vacation decor on the surface of their home in order that us who’re on the market strolling can get pleasure from it, as a result of it’s fantastic. And I adore it. And if you realize in case you don’t even beautify the within, and also you’re simply sort of do within the exterior on your neighbors. Thanks. I see you and I adore it. It makes me so completely happy.
Elsie: I agree. Yeah, adore it.
Emma: Yeah, walks was on my listing to like strolling exterior. And I additionally assume we talked about this in a earlier episode, however I really like happening a stroll with associates someday. I believe it’s a good time to catch up as a result of it’s like you may get your daylight and your steps and you’re possibly already going to go. And now you possibly can chat with a good friend a bit bit about what they’ve been as much as what life’s like for them. And generally that strains up with different folks’s schedules. Typically it doesn’t. It simply relies upon, nevertheless it’s good.
Elsie: Okay, what’s your subsequent one?
Emma: Okay, subsequent one is I’m gonna name it little luxuries.
Elsie: It sounds good. I don’t know what it means.
Emma: Properly, for me, my greatest one might be getting my lashes completed. As soon as a month, I get my lashes refilled. I’m an lash extension gal. And I adore it. And I believe after I was first getting it completed years in the past, I might at all times trip about it like oh, ought to I actually spend cash on this? Am I simply being useless? Am I you realize, having this appointment after I must be working? And you realize, particularly as soon as I had my son I’m like, you realize, I might get my appointment throughout daycare hours as a result of I can’t take him he could be so bored. He would destroy her room whereas we’re there, you realize? And yeah, and I’m like my son’s in daycare so I can get my lashes completed. Am I a horrible mom? Like generally this stuff undergo your thoughts and I believe I’ve actually settled on. No, that is nice. That is considered one of my little joys and I adore it. I really like getting my lashes completed. One in every of my favourite options is my eyes. I’ve these blue eyes. My son has actually blue eyes too. I believe he may need obtained it from me. And I really like them. So I really feel like my lashes sort of exhibit my eyes. extra. And I truthfully simply love laying down and shutting my eyes for an hour to an hour and a half and any individual else takes care of one thing for me. Yeah, it’s good. It’s such a luxurious. My lash gal is superior. Her title is Brittany. We chat so much. However she additionally doesn’t care if you wish to like pop in an audio e book or no matter. She’s like do your factor and I adore it. So it’s issues like that. I additionally like to color my nails. I’m extra of a paint my nails at house individual, simply because I have already got my lash appointment, I assume. However simply little luxuries like that. Shopping for a brand new face cream, simply letting your self purchase little issues which are simply what I might name little luxuries. Like simply one thing enjoyable that makes you are feeling good. And for me, loads of them are typically sort of beauty. But it surely’s truthfully not even actually a useless factor I don’t even assume my husband cares more often than not. It’s identical to stuff I like I’m identical to, I’m into this. So right here we go.
Elsie: I positively take part in that too. Though it’s not on right here. I believe that life must be a bit luxurious on a regular basis. Somewhat spa evening each evening. I adore it. No, I adore it. Skincare all of it. Great. Okay, my subsequent one is collections. So amassing issues is one thing that brings me loads of pleasure. My important collections proper now are antiques and artwork. So I’m sort of simply engaged on my home proper now, I used to be excited about amassing poison rings too. Once we have been on our little journey I used to be discovering these little rings from the Victorian period the place you possibly can like cover your poison. It’s mainly like a locket ring is what it seems like. And there’s like 1000s of them on Etsy. And I don’t know, I assumed it was like, fairly magical. So I like stuff like that like bizarre stuff. And often when it’s an vintage, I don’t purchase only one. I prefer to have like a set of them. , like I prefer to go deep into every of that vintage collections. Anyway, so far as artwork, I principally accumulate classic artwork or vintage artwork. As a result of I’m principally into previous work and our entire downstairs, it’s principally classic. However I’ll say if you wish to rob me undergo the entire home and simply take the modern artwork, in case you simply need the cash, as a result of I believe it’s you realize, it’s smaller, it’s price extra. It’s it’s simpler to hold in case you’re a robber. And yeah, I don’t know, vintage artwork you possibly can like you will discover it from a thrift retailer too. It’s such as you by no means actually know which of them are the costly ones you’ll by no means be capable to inform.
Emma: Now I’m simply excited about what I might steal if I broke into your own home.
Elsie: Positively take the modern artwork.
Emma: I’m gonna want a truck.
Elsie: It’s humorous. I don’t actually have something to steal, I assume. However don’t take my platinum file. You is aware of the Platinum, it’s my all the things.
Emma: It’s cool man. Jeremy is cool for having one.
Elsie: Steer clear of that. I have to anchor it to the wall.
Emma: Yeah. Might have an alarm.
Elsie: I have to put House Alone traps round it.
Emma: You get shot with a Nerf gun.
Elsie: Okay, you want I consult with it as my platinum file.
Emma: I seen that.
Elsie: So amassing artwork amassing antiques amassing, identical to I don’t know, I would like my entire home to be like Knives Out the place the start of Knives Out when, you undergo the entire home. And also you’re like, there’s a narrative behind each nook of this house. That’s how I would like it to really feel. And clearly that takes years. And like heaps and many layers. So I’m dedicated to that imaginative and prescient. And I’m identical to, little extra each month, a bit extra yearly.
Emma: I believe too. It actually jogs my memory of each our grandmother’s however particularly our grandmother Carina. She simply had numerous bizarre issues in our home bizarre items of artwork and collectible figurines and issues from journeys she’d been on and he or she had very eclectic style. And we performed with all that stuff after we have been youngsters. And I simply have actually vivid recollections of a few of that stuff in our home. And our different grandma, the one who’s in pink home now, Norma, she additionally has collections of issues, numerous porcelain collectible figurines very totally different vibe. She had a really, very totally different model than Carina.
Elsie: She has a very good like, mild up Christmas Home.
Emma: The Christmas home village. Yeah. And when Oscar and I might go over there across the Christmas season, he was instantly obsessed. I really feel prefer it’s like a child magnet. Sure collections like that, like at Christmas Village or no matter.
Elsie: My youngsters love going to her home.
Emma: Yeah. So I really feel prefer it offers like one thing, it’s only a enjoyable factor. And I imply, youngsters are extra upfront about it. However like adults need to see the collections in your own home too. Like I really like somebody’s bookshelf and seeing all their like little brass collectible figurines or no matter it’s that they accumulate seeing somebody’s artwork of their home. I really feel such as you realized a lot about somebody whenever you see like all of the artwork they’ve collected of their home. It’s so enjoyable. So yeah, I really like that about you that you just’re at all times amassing.
Elsie: It’s positively a bit pleasure as a result of it’s Like, you possibly can add a bit factor. And it’s not essentially costly. And it’s identical to and I’m at all times like having one thing to seek for, or like search for or just like the, you realize, listing for the flea markets and issues like that. Okay, what’s your subsequent one?
Emma: Okay. That is my final one. This episode is about pleasure and little issues. And I don’t know if this actually be a bit factor. So possibly I cheated. However I identical to, as I used to be excited about this episode, and like making my listing, I simply felt like this kind of match on there. So I’m simply going for it. So we have been speaking about this on our journey, truly, it’s mainly, if I needed to sum it up, it’s like adjusting your expectations, so to actually love one thing. And for me, I’ve actually been on this little journey the previous few months, like three, 4 months with it about parenting, as a result of I believe that, like all people does this with totally different arenas. So let me decide a distinct factor. So like, loads of instances, folks assume as quickly as I get my dream job, I’ll be completely happy, fortunately ever after. As quickly as I get married, I’ll be completely happy, fortunately ever after. And for me, I believe I did sort of have this like, as quickly as I’m a mother, as quickly as I’m a dad or mum, fortunately ever after as a result of that’s the factor I really need and I used to be actually eager for. And now that I’m in it, you realize, my son’s two and a half, after which I’m anticipating one other child. I do love being a dad or mum. But it surely was not the fortunately ever after that I like, put the stress for it to be. And never as a result of there’s something about it that I’m upset with. It’s truthfully very a lot what I used to be anticipating. And my son’s superior and so enjoyable. I believe I simply didn’t have the best expectations. And so I seen that I used to be getting like a bit bit extra pissed off with it. Like if we went and did one thing on the weekend. And it turned out he had a match on the finish of it or one thing as a result of shock he’s a toddler. And I might be like so upset. And I used to be identical to noticing that these little moments inside me probably not something that I used to be expressing the place I simply felt like, sort of deflated about it. And I used to be like, oh, I believe I used to be simply placing an excessive amount of on this. I believe I used to be anticipating an excessive amount of from it. And if I simply change that in me, then I would simply love this extra, as a result of it’s not a fortunately ever after. It’s exhausting work. And it’s fantastic. And it’s sort of all the things suddenly. , I don’t really feel like I did that a lot with careers or with getting married. However I believe I did with parenting and all people’s totally different with what they do it with. Possibly some folks don’t do it in any respect. However identical to switching that in my mind, which I’ve been engaged on now for a couple of months. Like I mentioned, I’ve been sort of like processing it in my very own thoughts speaking about it with shut associates. Now I’m speaking about on a podcast, I can actually inform that I’m sort of like having much more enjoyable with parenting as a result of I simply have the best expectations for it now the place I’m not anticipating it to meet me in all these actually huge methods. I’m identical to, loving it for what it’s. And I believe it’s sort of a small change, nevertheless it feels sort of greater, nevertheless it actually wasn’t. It didn’t take like loads of work or loads of deep remedy or actually something like that. It simply took me realizing that I had the flawed expectations round this factor. And if I simply took the stress off of that, then I may simply get pleasure from it for what it’s extra and yeah, so in that means I simply really feel much more joyful and lightweight about it. And it’s not prefer it’s solved something or it modified it essentially, however I’m simply having much more pleasure with it.
Elsie: That’s good. I really like that. Yeah, that that makes good sense. It’s positively a marathon. And it’s filled with just like the highs and lows could be fairly intense, is smart. It’s not like the films,
Emma: It’s not like motion pictures. Nothing ever is.
Elsie: Okay, talking of my final one is motion pictures. Oh, so I really like motion pictures. I really like motion pictures greater than nearly something. It’s most likely probably the most factor that I really like on this world that I’m not attempting to do with my profession. Like I at all times like accumulate issues if I adore it I attempt to like do it a bit bit however motion pictures I like I’m undeserving. I identical to I’m a fan. I simply assume that it’s so superb. I imply I really like novels too. But it surely’s like motion pictures are so fantastical you realize what I imply? Simply the issues that folks undergo to make them occur I believe is such like a marvel. Yeah, I’m simply obsessive about it. So anyway, any sort of film, I believe I’ve like a reasonably good selection like of various motion pictures that I really like however let me assume what’s my most favourite? I believe my most favourite are I believe it’s simply the those like we do on the podcast just like the actually cozy set designs. The place like they’re actually actually detailed. Yeah, the fixation I’ve on just like the House Alone home or the Knives Out home or The Sensible Magic home, that’s actual. There’s identical to nothing on this world that’s extra like, even just like the set of The Workplace, you realize, which is like, it’s not essentially lovely, nevertheless it’s like, I’m obsessive about it. So I don’t know. I simply assume that motion pictures, I like love. I really like actors. I really like movie star trivia. It’s like considered one of my hobbies. And I really like like, realizing if, you realize, like, if a film got here from a e book, or if, like, if it was simply created from like, I don’t know, it’s so fascinating.
Emma: Yeah, no, I agree. Actually, I believe if I’d analyzed it extra after I was 18, I believe eager to be an actor was largely identical to, loving motion pictures, and storytelling usually.
Elsie: Yeah. Like, I generally am jealous, likeEmma moved to LA, to attempt to do performing. And I, like generally take into consideration, like, what if I went together with her and simply tried to do one thing with motion pictures? Like, I believe there’s at all times going to be part of me, that’s like, I’m obsessive about them a lot that I simply need to like, be some a part of it. So possibly sometime there will probably be like, I don’t know, some sort of a means to assist with some film. However yeah, it’s positively a magical trade. That’s very inspiring.
Emma: Yeah, and really bizarre. And I additionally am at all times fascinated by like artwork initiatives that take an enormous group. As a result of it’s very totally different from something that I often do. I often identical to write my very own e book, or make my very own portray or make a bit necklace or no matter little interest I’ve, you realize, of creativity. So to see like initiatives that take like, big crews and writers and actors, and I’ll identical to so many various folks should be concerned. It’s sort of a miracle that any of them get made in any respect. When you concentrate on it. It’s wild, truthfully. And it’s only a bizarre, bizarre, fascinating trade.
Elsie: Yeah, it’s so cool. It’s yeah. Ah, okay, so I assume e book report time.
Emma: Sure. We’re speaking concerning the lifeless romantics. Do you need to give a synopsis?
Elsie: I can say the synopsis.
Emma: We’re most likely gonna have spoilers on this so ifyou haven’t learn it but. And I’ll say I believe this isn’t actually a thriller or something, however there are some belongings you most likely wouldn’t need to know in case you’re going to learn this
Elsie: Should you’re planning to learn it then it’s time to skip forward to Nova’s joke, however I’ll say I like to recommend this upfront. Like this was like, a very good one. It’s like a really enjoyable tremendous quick web page turner.
Emma: Yeah, love story, Spooky love story.
Elsie: It’s on the spooky aspect. It’s not truly spooky. It’s extra like pretend. spooky, nevertheless it’s cute spooky.
Emma: Yeah, it’s cute spooky. It’s like if a contemporary romance was like, however let’s make it a bit Halloweeny. Just a bit bit.
Elsie: Yeah, I adore it. Okay, so the synopsis. So The Lifeless Romantics is a narrative a couple of ghost author named Florence. She’s ghost writing for an excellent well-known romance creator. So she’s presupposed to be like, high shelf, like very well-known. And he or she’s written like a number of books. Like she’s on her fourth one, I believe out of like a contract. And so it’s gonna be her final one. So she’s like, going to her new editor to attempt to get an extension and he finally ends up being tremendous scorching. And also you’re like, okay, like, you realize, when the recent man enters a romance e book, you’re like,.
Emma: You’re like, right here we go. Particularly in the event that they don’t like one another at first, you’re like, right here we go.
Elsie: Yep, it’s what it’s. So anyway, she goes to go to her household for her dad’s funeral shortly after that. And it seems that the brand new scorching editor is now a ghost who’s visiting her as a result of he’s lifeless.
Emma: And her and her dad, who’s now deceased had this factor the place they may each see ghosts. And he was a funeral director. And he or she doesn’t like this a part of herself, as a result of she noticed ghosts as a baby, and solved a thriller. And everybody handled her like she’s a weirdo due to that.
Elsie: Yeah. So she hasn’t gotten again to her hometown to go to her household in 10 years, they’ve solely visited her and I used to be like, okay, what and anyway, so scorching man ghost retains visiting her. They usually’re attempting to plan her dad’s funeral and execute the funeral. And her dad’s not a ghost. It’s simply the editor man, Ben. They usually’re like getting fairly cozy. And yeah, Emma and I have been mainly like, we’re studying it on the identical time and we have been on a trip collectively and we have been like, how are they gonna do the ghost intercourse?
Emma: I used to be like, I assume there’s gonna be go ghost intercourse. I don’t know if it’s going to be satisfying. What’s going to occur right here?
Elsie: Yeah. So it’s like the right storm since you’re like, these two characters should be having intercourse quickly. However it’s inconceivable as a result of one is a ghost. And you contact it and it goes via the physique.
Emma: On this world ghost, your hand would go to their physique.
Elsie: Yeah. So anyway, I don’t know if we must always inform the ending however they work out a means. And it occurs. And I felt that it was like a reasonably cute romantic e book and enjoyable. It was very fast. I believe I learn it in like two or three days. And it was joyful. It was enjoyable. It’s not spooky. I believe that in case you have been like somebody who doesn’t even like spooky stuff, you possibly can like use this as your Halloween e book simply to love, yeah, have one and like kind of prefer it’s not spooky in any respect. And yeah, like my feedback have been mainly like, I imply, it’s a bit foolish, nevertheless it’s like enjoyable. And it’s meant to be that means. I assumed it was actually good for love e book. I sort of get uninterested in them as a result of they assume they’re all the identical. It’s like a troublesome class for me. And this one positively had sufficient issues that made it totally different. However I’ll say that Emma ruined the twist for me. She was like, she predicted it. And he or she like predicted all the things precisely. After which it sort of like ruined it.
Emma: There’s one factor I didn’t predict. But additionally, I nearly by no means predict endings. I’m truly actually unhealthy at it. So I really feel like this was one time that I did. And so I didn’t imply to spoil it as a result of often I’m flawed.
Elsie: It’s okay. I ought to have truly recognized that was coming. Anyway, I’ll give this e book 4 or 5 ghosty emojis, 4 level 5.
Emma: Yeah, I might give it like 4 level 5 too. I learn fairly a little bit of romance. And I really feel like it’s a powerful formulation as a result of it will possibly really feel the identical on a regular basis in some methods. So I actually cherished what this creator did with it, the creativity of it fairly early on the Ben character dies. And so that you’re like, oh, that is taking a flip. And that’s enjoyable, it’s an fascinating selection. I additionally haven’t actually learn a contemporary romance that felt a bit spooky, or was attempting to delve into some afterlife issues or this or that. And so I assumed that was actually enjoyable and fairly nicely completed. I total actually actually appreciated it, actually loved it. Should you like romance in any respect, I believe you’ll like this. It’s very enjoyable. So my different associates who like romance we’re at all times speaking about like, the place’s it at on the extent of intercourse? As a result of like a lot it’s like very mild.
Elsie: The spice a meter.
Emma: Yeah,the place’s it on the spice a meter. And this one to me is like, center to low. Not tons of spice.
Elsie: Let me put it this manner, I’m allowed to ship my 14 yr previous niece age acceptable books. And I might positively ship this one. Yeah, this is able to be superb. Like down there with like, The Fourth Wing. Prefer it this like a bit little bit of intercourse, however probably not.
Emma: Yeah, it’s fairly delicate. So not too spicy. And a few folks want that they don’t some folks don’t like an excessive amount of spice. Some persons are like, I would like a loopy, spicy scene, one thing I’ve by no means even heard of earlier than or I’m bored. And I get that too. I perceive each views. So this one is extra on the sunshine. So in case you get pleasure from that I like all of it. I’m eager about the entire scale of spiciness. So yeah, I assumed this was actually enjoyable. But it surely’s very distinctive for a romance. So very well worth the learn for my part.
Elsie: It’s very charming and cute. And I’m glad that it exists. I’m glad we learn it. Yeah. And I sort of really feel like we have been fortunate to seek out it.
Emma: I’m nearly 100% {that a} podcast listener despatched this since you all ship us e book suggestions pretty usually. And if I haven’t talked about this earlier than, I’m shopping for just about all of them off of thrift books, they usually’re sitting on my shelf. And a few I like greater than others I have to say, however this one I’m fairly certain it got here from a podcast listener they usually have been proper, as a result of I adore it.
Elsie: Yeah, it was cute. Okay, we adore it. All proper, let’s go to Nova’s phase. All proper, Nova, what do you’ve got for us this week?
Nova: A joke. Earlier than that, I simply needed to say thanks for purchasing my cookies. I hope you guys love them. I hope they’re yummy. My favourite is the journey falls. So thanks once more. And nicely I simply needed to say, let’s get into some jokes. What’s a pavement favourite sort of dessert?
Elsie: What’s it?
Nova: An Oreo concrete.
Elsie: Yeah, that’s a superb one. I believe it really works. Alright, thanks a lot for listening. We hope this episode introduced you some pleasure. We’re so grateful for all of your love and assist. And we’ll be again subsequent week with a consolation rewatch of the film, Hook.
Emma: Hook hook. The place’s the hook?
Elsie: Wonderful.